The Communication Mistake That Keeps Every Fight Going | Doug Noll

Doug Noll, trial-attorney-turned-peacemaker and internationally recognized conflict resolution expert, joins Dr. Tara Perry for a powerful conversation on why traditional "active listening" fails, how naming emotions can defuse conflict in under 90 seconds, and what a decade of work inside maximum-security prisons taught him about human nature. Doug shares the martial arts and mediation background that shaped his approach, the neuroscience behind why labeling feelings calms a dysregulated nervous system, and the moment he realized he was going about conflict resolution all wrong — and how fixing it transformed the lives of incarcerated women and power couples alike. The conversation closes with his framework for "listening someone into existence" and why he believes childhood emotional invalidation is at the root of most human conflict.